Falling in love with someone can be very exciting but there are certain things you need to know and put in place before you agree to explore your emotional desires with that person because if you don’t, the end of that relationship might be disastrous and may hunt you for the rest of your life.
Starting a romantic relationship with someone can be the best decision to take and can also be the worst decision of your life if you are not careful about it.

So before you agree to commit your heart to that person in a relationship, let's look at the 6 things you need to know before you say yes to a relationship proposal.

1. Know yourself:

Before you begin a journey or relationship with someone, it’s wise to spend time knowing yourself because doing that will make you know the person you need to date or begin a relationship with.

The success of your relationship, to a large extent, depends on how well you love yourself.

Love and know yourself better because that’s the foundation of all relationships.

One reason some person’s fall for any kind of person who comes their way is because they are yet to know and understand who they are.

Spend time to understand your emotional components, your likes and dislikes because it will help you in your relationship decisions.

As a single person, one of your core assignments in life is to understudy yourself. To know what you have been destined for, identify your potential and your value system because a relationship isn’t something you just enter for the fun of it.

Who you date should reveal your kind of person.

Know your purpose: Before God gave Adam a woman, he first gave him a purpose, and when the woman came, she came to help him fulfil his purpose.

So before you begin a relationship, know your purpose first. Knowing your purpose will help shape your decision and help you know the person to give access to your heart.

Understand Your Emotions: Understanding your emotions as a single person is an excellent tool, it will help you in making the right decision. For example, if you are the hot temper kind of person, it isn’t advisable to go into a relationship with someone that is a hot temper because you both will both burn yourselves out with anger. Who you date should complement your emotions.

If you are still struggling to accept yourself for who you are, then you need to work on yourself because until you know and accept yourself properly, it will affect your relationship decisions negatively.

It’s important you spend time to know and understand yourself very well because you will attract your kind.

This is the time you should explore and find your place at the workplace and know your individual components better.

If you don’t understand yourself, you will end up confused when relationship requests start coming.

2. Know what you want:

You may end up dating the wrong person if you don’t define what you want in a relationship.

I have seen some people rush into a relationship without defining what they hope or want to achieve in the relationship. And when they realize their mistakes, they fight so hard to define them, and most times it’s rather too late.

Is he the type of guy you want to share your heart with? Is she the type of girl you want in your life? Do you see the qualities you want in your relationship with him? You need to ask yourself these questions to know if those things you want are present in the relationship staring at you.

So before you rush or begin that next relationship, sit down and define what you want from that relationship as an individual.

3. Be ready for the challenges:

Some people enter a relationship with beautiful thoughts and a rosy mentality that everything will be a smooth ride just the way they’ve fantasised it to be.

It’s good to have beautiful thoughts about relationships but also know that amid these beautiful thoughts there will be some roughness because you aren’t entering a relationship with a perfect person but an imperfect person.

Are you emotionally, mentally and spiritually ready to handle the demands of a relationship? Are you ready to accept your partner to be just the way he or she is?

You both are imperfect people, and this imperfectness will cause you both to experience some level of challenges, and you need to be ready to deal with them.

So you need to be ready for this, and if you are not ready, there’s no point accepting the relationship proposal.

4. Be discipline:

Relationship matters will demand lots of discipline from you. You may encounter some challenging situations that may cause you to lose your cool, and you need self-control to handle it.

Also, there are lots of distractions that often occur that might want to distract you from your relationship, but you need to be disciplined to stay focused.

Since you and the person you want to begin a relationship with are from different backgrounds, there may be a clash between you both at the beginning, and if you are not self-controlled, you may react to the situation negatively.

So before you agree to begin a relationship, work on yourself to be focused and self-controlled because a relationship will demand lots from you.

5. It will affect your schedule:

You should understand that once you say yes to a relationship proposal, your calendar or schedule changes.

Every decision you make, give consideration to your partner because anything you do from now on will affect your partner.

So accepting a relationship proposal will practically change your life.

6. People change:

You need to know ahead of time that people change as they grow and encounter challenges in life.

So you need to acquaint yourself with this knowledge ahead of time to save yourself from futuristic heartaches because it will help you adjust yourself to happenings surrounding the relationship.

So before you accept that proposal, sit down and think through the listed above points because they will help you avoid making the wrong choices. And if you have questions and other points to add to this article, please comment on them in the comment section.

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  1. Always love reading your post 💖💖💖💖💖

  2. Very correct,I remember when my roommate got hurt from her ex and she always talk to him after that and the More she get hurt.

    The question is what if the person that hurt you is attending the same church with you ,does that mean you should leave the church or environment forever???

    1. Thanks for your comment but you should have commented it under the heartbreak topic.

      Anyways, Let me use myself as example. When I was in school, I dated a lady who later broke up with me because of a guy in the same fellowship with me, he lived in the same street with me, in fact we all attended the same fellowship and lived close, so there wasn't anyway for me to avoid them. This is what i did!

      Whenever I saw them together walking towards me, I just greet them while smiling and walk away. If I see the lady coming towards me, I will start conversation with another lady. One time she came and same she wanted to talk to me and told her I am having a meeting with people and i can't leave them because of her but she can wait. And it helped a lot.

      For the lady, there's no point leaving the church but she should stop every special treatment she used to give him before. Let her get busy after church if she can't go home immediately, and she needs to be strict about.

      I believe I have answered you question but if you are not yet satisfied, you can ask for more clarity.

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