REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LOVE THE WAY YOU ARE LOVED.

REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LOVE THE WAY YOU ARE LOVED..


The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.” 
Matthew 12:31(NLT)

Have you wondered why you seem to get hurt in that relationship? Have you ever loved someone where it looks like you are the one making all the efforts to keep the relationship going? And have you ever had a sleepless night asking yourself if he or she loves you the way you do, or if you are the only one in the relationship?

A relationship is good, but it becomes frustrating when you are the only one doing everything possible to keep the relationship or friendship alive, and this is the point where we feet hurt and abused.

Love is not just a word, but a word backed with commitment, and this commitment needs a mutual expression.

According to the scripture above, we are to love and relate with our neighbour (friends, dates or partner) just the way we relate and love ourselves.

So for the sake of understanding, let’s digest this scripture properly.

SELF LOVE:

Self-love forms the foundation of successful relationships. You can’t succeed in a relationship until you have loved yourself.

You may ask how?

How you love someone should be rooted in how you love yourself.

Before we move further, ask yourself this question “Do I love Myself?..” According to the scripture above, we are to love our neighbours as we love ourselves. That means you are to love your neighbour or those around you based on the level of Love you have for yourself, nothing less and nothing more.

If you love yourself, it will show in the way you relate or love your neighbour.

LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOURSELF:

Your neighbour is anyone who lives around you. Your neighbour could be the person you are in love with because the person isn’t you. And you shouldn’t relate with them beyond the way you relate with yourself.

A genuine relationship will naturally make you love and value yourself more because it’s a platform that begins with you.

THE RISK OF NOT LOVING YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOURSELF:

Loving someone beyond the way you love yourself is risky, and below are some negative things that could happen to you.

1. Get hurt:

You put yourself at risk when you love someone beyond the way you love yourself because it exposes you at getting hurt. Any little thing your partner does that isn’t agreeable to you could make you get hurt.

When the love you receive is not equal to the one you give, it’s a danger!

2. Prone to abuse:

Emotional abuse isn’t far from those who expressed love beyond the way they love themselves because you are exposing yourself to emotional abuse, and could be taken for granted.

You could be taken for granted, devalued and less appreciated when you expose yourself too much to someone who doesn’t reciprocate what you do.

Balance the Love.

To be on a safer side in your relationship, learn to balance the display and expressions of love.

Relate with people or your partner on the same level: on the level, he or she is relating to you because it will help to balance the love and save you from emotional stress.

Do you know why it seems like you are the one making or doing everything possible to make the relationship work? Do you know why you get hurt and emotionally abused? That’s because you are the one who loves more and loving beyond the way you love yourself, beyond the love you are receiving.

To save yourself from all these emotional traumas, relate with people or your partner on the same level he or she is relating to you.

Showing care beyond the point they show you, it’s risky most times.

If what you do in your relationship isn’t reciprocated, balance the love.

One thing that gives a relationship some sweetness, it’s the expression of mutuality and when this is not clear in your relationship, then balance the love.

If he or she calls you, do the same. If they spend time with you, do the same. When they don’t do any of these, do the same because it will shield you from getting hurt and abused.

Only those who relate and treat you specially deserve special treatment from you.

A relationship where mutuality isn’t encouraged, one party gets hurt eventually.

Loving Beyond yourself:

I realize that those who treat people or those they love beyond the way these people treats them are most times having an emotional problem.

Someone suffering from an inferiority complex will do everything possible to make sure his or her feelings are known and appreciated, even when the other person doesn’t value them.

Have you ever seen a relationship where the guy takes pleasure in molesting the lady and she still stays in the relationship and called it love? Such a lady is having a self-esteem issue. She might have lost the confidence that no other guy will want to enter a relationship with her, and for that reason, she will want to endure the pains, hoping he will change and treat her better one day.

Low self-esteem individuals are easily prone to any form of abuse.

Advantage/Disadvantage of balancing the love:

Trying to balance the love in a relationship comes with disadvantage and advantage.

1. The relationship might end:

Most times when you treat people or the one you love based on how they treat you, the relationship will die a natural death with no form of pains, because by then you would have known that the people you claim to love doesn’t even care about you.

2. It will improve the relationship:

When you treat the person you love based on how he or she treats or relate with you, if the person cares about you, they will surely react to it and will do everything they can to restore and build the relationship better.

Some people will never know the damage they are doing to you until you serve them with the same treatment.

ONLY GOD:

According to the above scripture, we are to love a relate with people based on the way we love ourselves because that’s the golden principle of love, one that encourages self-love.

Any relationship that will demand you to express love beyond the way you love yourself is abusive.

Truthfully, the only relationship that requires us to express love beyond the way we love ourselves, is the relationship we have with God.

God’s relationship with us requires us to love him with all our heart, soul and might even onto death because such a relationship is eternal.

When you love someone beyond the way you love yourself, you indirectly make that person an idol in your life, and that is a grievous act before God because him alone deserves that kind of love.

You want to be valued, respected and treated in the right way you deserve, then love your neighbour just the way you love yourself.

I trust God this piece of information was helpful, and if it does, please do well to comment and follow this blog below.

Thank You!

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