THE RISK OF NOT OVERCOMING HEARTBREAK..

THE RISK OF NOT OVERCOMING HEARTBREAK.


Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

Proverbs 13:12. NIV

As I earlier said, some person’s find it hard to let go of the emotional injury and it hinder them to get healed completely.

Those who find it hard to get over the shock of heartbreak are most times the ones who love most.

Not getting healed or overcoming the break-up, to some extent have some negative impact on the individual.

1. IRRITATION:

When an individual find it hard to overcome a heartbreak experience, to some extent they start feeling irritated by the opposite sex. Everything about the opposite sex just irritate them for no reason.

The experience created a false impression in their mind that all men or ladies are bad. Even when they finally begin another relationship, they still get easily irritated by the person they are dating.

I was counselling a lady recently who just experienced a heartbreak, and she said she’s feeling irritated by the male gender. She’s experiencing that because she’s finding it hard to move on from the experience.

2. SELF-WITHDRAWAL:

When an individual find it hard to move on from the experience of heartbreak, they experience this self withdrawal syndrome.

They start feeling inadequate that they aren’t good enough for anyone, despite all their efforts to build the past relationship.

This feeling of self withdrawal is very terrible because it will gravitate into crushing the individual self-esteem, making the person look down on his or herself.

READ: Dealing With Heartbreak..!!

3. LACK OF CONFIDENCE TO START A NEW RELATIONSHIP:

I know of some people who have lost the willpower to start a new relationship because they don’t have the interest anymore.

For some, they’ve already pictured in their mind that the relationship will end in sadness the way the previous one did.

4. ADDICTION:

Some people become so addicted to alcohol because to them, that’s the only thing that will make them forget the pains they are trying to move on from.

For some, they become addicted to sex. I once counselled a lady who was addicted to sex after experiencing a heartbreak. It was so bad that she must have sex like eight times a day with different guys. She couldn’t sit close to any guy without having an uncontrollable urge for sex.

5. BECOME AN ABUSER:

Emotionally injured people that are yet to get over the emotional trauma most times turn into an abuser of people.

You find them deliberately starting a relationship with someone with the intention to break the person’s heart, not minding if they get hurt or not. You hear them say I want them to feel the pains I went through, and funny enough, they have a foolish principle to back up their abusive nature.

Those who get abused most times become an abuser.

God create anyone with a playboy, playgirl or a flirting nature, all these are the extreme manifestation of emotional injuries.

6. DELAY MARITAL SETTLEMENT:

Emotional injuries or heartbreak have the tendency of making you settle down late maritally if not properly handled.

Every heartbreak experience takes a piece of your heart.

When you have no interest of entering a relationship, you are indirectly depriving yourself of being loved and also settling down maritally.

Some end up becoming too strict to protect themselves of being heartbroken again, and they end up making the surrounding atmosphere harsh to accommodate people mostly the opposite sex, and they end up leaving because they can cope with it.

When people leave your life because of the harsh and strict atmosphere around you, it will hinder you the opportunity of settling down early maritally.

7. INSTABILITY RELATIONSHIPS:

Have you ever wondered why some persons can’t just stay in a relationship? Each time you see them, they are always in a new relationship. They’ve become emotionally confused because of the heartbreak experience they encountered.

You need to grow out of it before it eats deep into you.

When you see someone who’s not emotionally unstable in a relationship, you are seeing someone who’s so deep in emotional injuries. They find it hard to stable in a relationship because they are looking for a perfect relationship, one that won’t hurt them.

8. DEEP IN FAULT FINDING:

An individual who spends a longer time in a heartbroken emotional state or finds it hard to let go, may likely develop a perfectionist trait where they want everything to be perfect around them, and for that they are quick in seeing fault in everything.

So no matter the emotional trauma you might have experienced, seek healing because it will help you greatly. 

I trust God this piece of information was helpful to you, and if it does, please do well to comment and follow this page below.

Thank You!

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